Regardless of your nationality, social and financial class or level of education, you lived and experienced this text "The Story of Humans" in your own way. Read while reflecting on how this story has happened to you, and what your own scenario is.

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We Dream

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What you are living, seeing and hearing right now and every day is nothing but a DREAM.

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You are dreaming right now, in this moment. YES, you are dreaming now but with the brain awake. Dreaming is the main function of the mind, and the mind dreams twenty-four hours a day. It dreams when the brain is awake, and it also dreams when the brain is asleep. The difference is that when the brain is awake, there is a material frame that makes us perceive things in a linear way. When we go to sleep we do not have the frame, so we still dream but differently, and the dream has the tendency to change constantly.

 

Humans are dreaming all the time. Before we were born the humans and societies before us created a big outside dream that we will call THE DREAM OF THE PLANET. The dream of the planet is the collective dream of billions of smaller personal dreams, which together create a dream of a family, a dream of a community, a dream of a city, a dream of a country, and finally a dream of the whole humanity.

 

The dream of the planet includes all of society's rules, its beliefs, its laws, its religions, its different cultures and ways to be, its governments, education system, social events, and holidays... Everything. We are born with the capacity to learn how to dream, so the humans who lived before us teach us how to dream THE WAY SOCIETY DREAMS. The outside dream has so many rules that when a new human is born, we hook the child's attention and introduce these rules into his or her mind. The outside dream uses Mom and Dad, the schools, and religions to teach us how to dream THE SAME WAY OUR ANCESTORS DREAMT.

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ATTENTION & REPEATITION

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"Attention" is the ability we have to discriminate and to focus only on that which we want to perceive. We can perceive millions of things simultaneously, but using our attention, we can hold only what we want to perceive in the foreground of our mind. The adults around us hooked our attention and put information into our minds through REPETITION. That is the way we learned everything we know. By using our "attention", we learned a whole reality, a whole dream.

 

We learned how to behave in society: what to believe and what not to believe; what is acceptable and what is not acceptable; what is good and what is bad; what is beautiful and what is ugly; what is right and what is wrong. It was all there already, all that knowledge, all those rules and concepts about how to behave and live in this world.

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MENTAL FOOD

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When you were in school, you sat in a little chair and put your attention on what the teacher was teaching you. When you went to church or to the mosque, you put your attention on what the priest or sheikh was telling you. It is the same dynamic with Mom and Dad, brothers and sisters.

 

 They were all trying to hook your attention. We also learn to hook the attention of other humans, and we develop a need for attention which can become very competitive sometimes, Children compete for the attention of their parents, their teachers, their friends. "Look at me! Look at what I'm doing! Hey, I'm here". This need for attention becomes very strong and continues into adulthood. It became a form of mental food.

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NOT OUR CHOICE

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The outside dream hooks our attention and teaches us what to believe, beginning with the language that we speak. Language is the code for understanding and communication between humans. Every letter, every word in each language is an agreement. We call what you are currently reading "a story", we agreed to call it a story to understand each other.

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It was not your choice to speak English. You didn't choose your religion or your moral values; they were already there before you were born. We never had the opportunity to choose what to believe or what not to believe. We never chose even the smallest of these agreements. We didn't even choose our own name. As children, we didn't have the opportunity to choose our beliefs, but WE AGREED with the information that was passed to us from the dream of the planet via other humans. We did not filter them, we were just kids!

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AGREEMENT

 

The only way to store information is by agreement. The outside dream may hook our attention, but if we don't agree, we don't store that information. As soon as we agree, we believe it, and this is called faith.

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DOMESTICATION OF HUMANS

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To have faith is to believe unconditionally. That's how we learn as children. Children believe everything adults say. We agree with them, and our faith is so strong that the belief system controls our whole dream of life. We didn't choose these beliefs, and we may have rebelled against some of them during childhood, but we were not strong enough to win the rebellion... The result is surrender to the beliefs with OUR AGREEMENT.

 

This process is called "THE DOMESTICATION OF HUMANS", And through this domestication we learned how to live and how to dream the same way our predecessors dream. In human domestication, the information from the outside dream (others) is conveyed to the inside dream (you), creating your whole belief system.

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First the child is taught the names of things: Mom, Dad, milk, bottle... Etc. Day by day, at home, at school, at church, at the mosque and from television, we are told how to live, what kind of behavior is acceptable. The outside dream teaches us how to be a human. We have a whole concept of what a "woman" is and what a "man" is. And we also learned how to judge: so, we judge ourselves, judge other people, judge the neighbours ... punishment and Reward.

 

PUNISHMENT & REWARD

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Children are domesticated the same way that we domesticate a dog, a cat, or any other animal. In order to teach a dog, we punish the dog and we give it rewards. We train our children WHOM WE LOVE SO MUCH the same way that we train any domesticated animals: with a way called PUNISHMENT AND REWARD system. We are told, "You're a good boy," or "You're a good girl," when we do what Mom and Dad want us to do. When we don't, we are "a bad girl" or "a bad boy."

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THE TWO FEARS

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When we went against the rules we were punished; when we went along with the rules we got a reward. We were punished many times a day, and we were also rewarded many times a day. Soon we developed two tears: 1) AFRAID OF BEING PUNISHED and 2) AFRAID OF NOT RECEIVING THE REWARD.

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PRETENDING TO SEEKING ATTENTION

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The real reward we fear not getting is the ATTENTION that we got from our parents or from other people like siblings, teachers, and friends. We soon develop a need to hook other people's attention in order to constantly get this reward. The reward feels good and we keep doing WHAT OTHERS WANT US TO DO in order to get the reward. With this fear of being punished and that fear of not getting the reward, we start PRETENDING to be what we are not, just to please others, just to be good enough for someone else.

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ACTING

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We try to please Mom and Dad, we try to please the teachers at school, we try to please the priest and sheikh, and So we start ACTING, We pretend to be what we are not because we are afraid of BEING REJECTED. The fear of being rejected becomes the fear of NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH. Eventually we become someone that we are not. We become a copy of Mama's beliefs, Daddy's beliefs and society's beliefs. This is the root cause and hidden reason behind the development of what is called: our FALSE-SELF.

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SAYING "NO"

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Of course, that was not the intention of our ancestors and parents, but this is what happened! Also, we cannot deny that we learned good things from them too, but they were so much domesticated that in the process of raising us they made us loose the normal tendencies we are created with as children like creativity, exploration, the eagerness to learn and more... When we got older and our mind started to understand that we are constantly being domesticated, we learned the word "NO".

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The adults say, "Don't do this and don't do that." We rebel and say, "No!". We rebel because we are defending our freedom. We want to be our Self, our TRUE-SELF, but we are very little, and the adults are big, experienced and strong. After a certain time, we become automatically afraid because we know that every time we do something wrong we are going to be punished, and the adult will always win the argument.

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Domesticated Adults

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The domestication is so strong that at a certain point in our life we no longer need anyone to domesticate us. We don't need Mom or Dad, the school or university, the church or the mosque to domesticate us.

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WE ARE SO WELL TRAINED THAT TODAY AS ADULTS WE ARE OUR OWN DOMESTICATORS.

We humans became auto-domesticated animals. We can now domesticate ourselves according to the same belief system we were given, and by using the same system of punishment and reward.

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THE BOOK OF LAW

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We punish ourselves when we don't follow the rules ACCORDING TO OUR BELIEF SYSTEM; we reward ourselves when we are the "good boy" or "good girl." The belief system in our minds is called THE BOOK OF LAW, and it rules our mind and accordingly our life totally. Without question, whatever is in that Book of Law, is our TRUTH. We base all of our judgments according to the Book of Law, even if these judgments go against our own inner nature. It doesn't mean that what is in the Book of Law is all TRUTH, but once in, we follow blindly because we have agreed to it one day.

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THE JUDGE

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There is something in our minds that judges everybody and everything, including the weather, the dog, the cat everything. The inner JUDGE uses what is in our Book of Law to judge everything we do and don't do, everything we think and don't think, and everything we feel and don't feel. Everything lives under the tyranny of this Judge. Every time we do something that goes against the Book of Law, the Judge says we are guilty, we need to be punished, we should be ashamed. This happens many times a day, day after day, for all the years of our lives.

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THE VICTIM

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There is another part of us that receives the judgments, and this part is called the VICTIM. The victim carries the blame, the guilt, and the shame. It is the part of us that says, "Poor me, I'm not good enough, I'm not intelligent enough, I'm not attractive enough, I'm not worthy of love, poor me." The big Judge agrees and says, "Yes, you are not good enough." And this is all based on a belief system that we never chose to believe. These beliefs are so strong, that even years later when we refuse to believe them and we get exposed to new concepts and try to make our own decisions, we find that these beliefs still control our lives.

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CHALLENGING THE BOOK OF LAW

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Your Book of Law and the false beliefs you have inside of it are the creators of your False-Self. All the MASKS (Far) you use to protect yourself and fit in the society have their roots in your Book of Law. When anyone tries to challenge your False-Self you will experience great resistance. That is because challenging the False-Self is done by challenging the content of your Book of Law, and whatever goes against your Book of Law will make you feel an unpleasant sensation in your solar plexus (all), and this sensation is called FEAR, and you want to avoid feeling this fear, so you defend your Book of Law and False-Self. For you, everything that is in the Book of Law HAS TO BE TRUE, because you spent your entire life believing and using it, and it has been written by people who love you, so how can it be wrong or mistaken! That's why your False-Self for you IS TRUE, so anything that challenges what you believe is going to MAKE YOU FEEL UNSAFE, and anything that exposes your False-Self will be rejected by a certain power inside of you.

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COURAGE

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We need a great deal of COURAGE to challenge our own beliefs stored in the Book of Law. Because even if we know we didn't choose all these beliefs, it is also true that WE AGREED to all of them. The agreement is so strong that even if we understand the concept of it not being true, we feel the blame, the guilt, and the shame that occurs if we go against these rules ... You are your own Judge, and you are your own Victim.

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THE JUDGE IN US DECREES, AND THE VICTIM IN US SUFFERS THE GUILT AND PUNISHMENT. 

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Who says there is justice in this dream of our planet? True justice is paying only once for each mistake. True injustice is paying more than once for each mistake. How many times do we pay for one mistake? The answer is thousands of times. The human is the only animal on earth that pays a thousand times for the same mistake. The rest of the animals pay once for every mistake they make... We have a powerful memory. We make a mistake, we judge OURSELVES, we find ourselves guilty, and we punish ourselves. If justice exists, then that was enough; we don't need to do it again. But every time we remember, we judge ourselves again, we are guilty again, and we punish ourselves again, and again, and again. If we have a wife or husband, boyfriend or girlfriend, teacher or boss they also remind us of the mistake we did, so we can judge ourselves again, punish ourselves again, and find ourselves guilty again... Is this fair?

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How many times do we make our spouse, our children, or our parents pay for the same mistake? Every time we remember the mistake, we blame them again and send them all the emotional poison we feel at the injustice, and then we make them pay again for the same mistake. Is that justice ?

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THE FALSE JUDGE

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The Judge in the mind is false because what is in the Book of Law, is not Truth. The whole dream is based on false law. Ninety-five percent of the beliefs we have stored in our Book of Law are nothing but lies, and we Judge suffer because WE BELIEVE these lies. We do not know they are lies, we are somehow ignorant about that. In the dream of the planet it is normal for humans to suffer, to live in fear, and to create emotional dramas.

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THE NIGHTMARE OF THE WORLD 

 

The outside dream is not a pleasant dream for many people; it is a dream of violence, a dream of fear, a dream of war, a dream of injustice. The personal dream of humans will vary, but globally it is mostly a nightmare. If we look at human society we see a place so difficult to live in, because it is ruled by fear. Throughout the world we see human suffering, anger, revenge, addictions, violence in the street, and tremendous injustice. It may exist at different levels in different countries around the world, but fear is controlling the outside dream. What do you expect from millions of humans living by their False-Selves?! How will they treat each other?!

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If we compare the dream of human society with the description of hell that religions all around the world have promulgated, we find they are exactly the same. Religions say that hell is a place of punishment, a place of fear, pain, and suffering, a place where the fire burns you. We can see this fire as a fire generated by emotions that come from fear. Whenever we feel the emotions of anger, jealousy, envy, or hate, we experience a fire burning within us, a fire in our chests ...

 

Humanity is living in a dream of hell. If you consider hell as a state of mind, then hell is all around us. Others may warn us that if we don't do what they say we should do, we will go to hell. Bad news!!! We are already in hell, including the people who tell us that. No human can condemn another to hell because we are already there. Some people can put us into a deeper hell, true, BUT ONLY IF WE ALLOW THIS TO HAPPEN. Every human has his or her own personal dream, and just like the society dream, it is often ruled by fear. We learn to dream hell in our own life, in our personal dream. The same fears manifest in different ways for each person, of course, but we end up all experiencing anger, jealousy, hate, envy, and other negative emotions.

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Our personal dream can also become an ongoing nightmare where we suffer and live in a state of fear.

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BUT WE DON'T NEED TO DREAM A NIGHTMARE ... IT IS POSSIBLE TO CREATE & ENJOY A PLEASANT DREAM.

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TRUTH AND JUSTICE

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All of humanity is searching for truth, justice, and beauty. Think of yourself, you are searching for these things too. We are on an eternal search for the truth because we are tired from the lies we have stored in our Book of Law. We are searching for justice because in our Book of Law there is no justice. We search for beauty because it doesn't matter how beautiful a person is, we hardly believe that person has beauty, and we hardly believe we too have beauty inside. We keep searching and searching, when everything is already within us. The truth is, there is no truth to find. Wherever we turn our heads, all we see is the truth, but with the agreements and beliefs we have stored in our Book of Law, WE HAVE NO EYES FOR THIS TRUTH.

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We cannot see who we truly are; we cannot see that we are not free. That is why humans resist life. TO BE ALIVE IS THE BIGGEST FEAR HUMANS HAVE. Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive and express what we really are: our TRUE-SELF. Just being our Self, our True-Self, is the biggest fear of humans. We have learned to live our life with a False- Self, trying to satisfy other people's demands. We have learned to live by other people's points of view because of the fear of not being accepted and of not being good enough for someone else.

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THE PERFECT IMAGE

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During the process of domestication, we form an image of what perfection is, in order to try to be good enough. We create an image of how we should be in order to be accepted by everybody. We especially try to please the ones who love us, like Mom and Dad, big brothers and sisters, the priests, the sheikh, the teacher and friends. Trying to be good enough for them, our False-Self creates an image of perfection, but we don't fit this image. We create this image, but this image is not real. We are never going to be perfect from this point of view... Never! Not being perfect in our early age, we reject ourselves as children. And the level of self-rejection depends upon how effective and strong the adult was in breaking our integrity.

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NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR OURSELVES

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After domestication it is no longer about being good enough for anybody else. We are not good enough for ourselves because we don't fit with our own image of perfection and the standards we have set to live by. We cannot forgive ourselves for not being what we wish to be, or rather what we believe we should be. We cannot forgive ourselves for not being PERFECT.

Deep, deep inside we know we are not what we believe we are supposed to be, and so we feel false, frustrated, and dishonest. We try to hide ourselves, and we pretend to be what we are not.

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SOCIAL MASKS

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The result is that we feel unauthentic, so we create and wear SOCIAL MASKS to keep others from noticing this. We are so afraid that somebody else will notice that we are not what we pretend to be. We judge others according to our image of perfection as well, and naturally they fall short of our expectations.

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We dishonour ourselves just to please other people. We even do harm to our physical bodies just to be accepted by others. You see teenagers taking drugs or cigarettes just to avoid being rejected by other teenagers. They are not aware that the problem is that they don't accept themselves. They reject themselves because they are not what they pretend to be. They become very self-abusive, and they use other people to abuse themselves as well.

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SELF ABUSE

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But nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves, and it is the JUDGE and the VICTIM, in the Book of Law that make us do this. True, we find people who say that their husband or wife, or mother or father, abused them, but you know that WE ABUSE OURSELVES MUCH MORE THAN THAT. The way we judge ourselves is the worst judge that ever existed. If we make a mistake in front of people, we try to deny the mistake and cover it up. But as soon as we are alone, the Judge becomes so strong, the negative self-talk, the guilt is so strong, and we feel so stupid, or so bad, or so unworthy.

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In your whole life nobody has ever abused you more than your False-Self has abused you. And the limit of your self-abuse IS EXACTLY the limit that you will tolerate from someone else. If someone abuses you a little more than you abuse yourself, you will probably walk away from that person. But if someone abuses you a little less than you abuse yourself, you will probably stay in the relationship and tolerate it endlessly. If your False-Self abuses you very badly, you can even tolerate someone who beats you up, humiliates you, and treats you like dirt. Why? Because in your Book of Law it is written: "I deserve it. This person is doing me a favour by being with me. I'm not worthy of love and respect. I'm not good enough."

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SELF ACCEPTANCE

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We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal. Our False-Self need of perfection and high standards are the reasons we reject ourselves; it is why we don't accept ourselves the way we are, and why we don't accept others the way they are.

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Your False-Self is so strong and it really manipulates your life, because you AGREED to give it the lead, to make sure you are accepted in the society. You did that agreement when you were very young. You did it out of either ignorance or the fear of being rejected. It was not an option back then ...

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How would you do anything else? You were a tiny little child!

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NEW AGREEMENT, NEW LIFE

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Today this agreement is still active and running. Maybe because you were not aware it is. BUT, now you are and you have the choice to break that agreement with your False-Self. Agreement you have the choice to have another agreement that is more representative of who you are.

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WHAT WILL YOU CHOOSE TODAY?

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KEEP THE OLD AGREEMENT WITH YOUR FALSE-SELF, OR BREAK IT AND SET YOURSELF FREE?

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The 12 Personas 

(Masks of the False Self)

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